So long, Chutta

Sad news. My Uncle Jimmy died yesterday morning, after a long battle with many different ailments, including diabetes and kidney failure. Jimmy was my dad’s last remaining sibling, and his passing will leave a void.

In healthier times, he was a big, silver-haired, raspy-voiced smooth-talker. It was like having a really friendly movie Mafia don in the family, and I mean that in a good way. He had a great sense of humor, was always ragging on my dad and making everyone laugh, and was one of the best cooks in the family. He would often go out of his way to make sure I had some of my favorite (and his specialty) fried eggplant.

In the last few months, Uncle Jimmy just basically got tired of all the crap he had to deal with just to maintain a semblance of health. The many pills, doctor trips, etc. just wore him down so he stopped doing it, started eating and drinking what he wanted. Some saw this as giving up, but I saw it as being realistic about mortality and choosing to go out on his own terms, and I think that is really admirable. I hope when my time comes, I have the ability to do likewise.

We’ll miss you, Jim.

3 Responses to “So long, Chutta”

  1. LOUP Says:

    Sorry to hear about your Uncle. I think you are right about going out on your own terms. My dad did the same thing and for the weeks before his death I had to hear from his family on how I just “let” him give up because I didn’t force him into chemo. I’m glad your uncle got to do some of the things he liked before it was over. If you spend all of your time trying to put off dying you don’t really get to live.

  2. monkeygirl Says:

    I’m really sorry to hear about your loss, although, there is definitely comfort in knowing he was ready to go.

  3. whistler Says:

    I know this must be really tough on your dad. Our thoughts go out to him and all of you…

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